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Exercises
A New Future
for Dorah
by
Bronwen Jones
Dorah will be four in April. When she was seven months old,
the house in which she lived caught fire. The heat destroyed
her hands and face.At the end of 1997 doctors in South Africa
recommended that her eyes should be removed to prevent infection.
Was this necessary? asked The Times. Was there
a surgeon somewhere who could save Dorah's eyes?
Today, thanks to the generosity
of our readers, Dorah has a very different future. The plea
for medical assistance to allow her to keep her sense of light
and dark has attracted interest from many eminent doctors.
It has also
raised ₤76 000 in donations - people wrote from
as far a field as Australia and New York.
The most likely option
now is that Dorah will come to London in the spring and that
the first of several operations will take place to rebuild
her eyelids. Richard Collin, a at Moorfields Eye Hospital, has offered
his skills for free, and the hospital fees of £ 6 500 for the
first two operations will be met by donations.
Mr. Collin has yet to examine
Dorah, but he was optimistic after Sky TV shot medical
of her injuries. If the initial
on Dorah is good, she will have the first operation immediately.
This will use skin from elsewhere on her body, probably her
legs, to create a curtain over the eyes. She will be in hospital
for 10 days, followed by six weeks’
to allow the scars to heal. During this time Dorah's eyes
could be tested to see how much sight she has.
Many Times readers
have offered Dorah accommodation, but she may need to remain
in London to have her other needs assessed at Great Ormond
Street Hospital for Children, or possibly East Grinstead,
where the Victoria Hospital has a specialized unit in . The second operation, to divide her new
eyelids, would take two to three days in hospital.
Then Dorah would fly home
to South Africa for six months. Her scar tissue would heal
and she would have daily treatment with eye drops and cream.
After this, she would return to the UK for a third operation
to try to raise the eyelids by attaching a muscle from behind
the eyes to the lids. In this, or a fourth operation, Mr.
Collin would try to thicken the eyelids by adding tissue and
more skin.
Because Dorah's case is so unusual, none
of the procedures or time estimates will be confirmed until
she arrives here, and securing permission for her to travel
involves much
in South Africa. Events took an even more unexpected turn
when I found Dorah's mother, Margaret Mokoena, living in a
. I had been told by hospital administrators
and by a reporter who had visited the camp that Margaret was
only 14 when Dorah was born. When I finally met her, I realized
that one never knows the truth until one has
it for oneself.
Margaret is now 26. She
left school with the education level of a 12-year-old because
there was no money to pay for fees, uniform and transport.
She grew up in a
home, with a drunken father who abused her mother so badly
that she walked out seven years ago. Margaret has not heard
from her since.
Her father's other wife
stabbed Margaret's father in the chest a year ago - he died.
Margaret was raised mainly by her frail grandmother, Violet,
on whose monthly state pension of R 470 (£53) the family survived.
Margaret said that if ever she secured part-time work tilling
the maize fields, the men in the family spent her earnings
on alcohol. Even Dorah's father - who has shown no interest
in her since she was injured - beat Margaret. She has burn
scars on her right arm where he hit her with an iron.
From this horrific background
a quietly spoken, thoughtful young woman has emerged. Unlike
many of her contemporaries, she has had only one child and
has no intention of finding another male partner. She has
no positive role models to encourage her to do so.
How she lost contact with
her child is a story
in the attitudes of the
era that still affect so much of South African society. Margaret
has little self-confidence; she curtseyed when we met.
The blaze in which Dorah
was injured started when a candle fell from its holder. The
cardboard used to cover the hut quickly caught fire. Margaret
was at a neighbour's home fetching water for Violet, who was
sick. "I came back and flames were coming through the roof,"
she whispers. "I looked inside and when the flames seemed
lower over the bed, my brother and I grabbled the mattress
and pulled Dorah out. She was so badly hurt that I was scared
to touch her."
An ambulance tour of hospitals
followed through the night, with rejection and
at every turn. When eventually Dorah was taken into of the Far East Rand Hospital,
Margaret was told to go home.
She had been separated
from her baby before, when Dorah was born two months premature.
"I think it was because I was so badly beaten by my child's
father. They kept her in an
for two weeks."
Margaret was also used
to being
by hospital officials, who always thought they knew best.
She had neither the language skills nor confidence to argue
with them. And she had no money.
The visits were occasional,
but on one occasion she was told her child had been transferred
and that no one could give her a contact number for the hospital.
Margaret was told to go to the 's court to sign
papers to allow Dorah to become a ward of court, although
she did not understand the .
"I did not go to court.
But I did not know what to do. I had no money for lawyers."
But Margaret understood
that Dorah had been adopted and that her maternal rights had
been removed. I took her to be reunited with Dorah.
I cannot easily find words
to express the feeling of the two of them being together again.
This was not a bad mother who did not care about her child.
It was a bad or indifferent society that did not try hard
enough to keep them together. A society that looked at them
in terms of what they could not do or did not have, and judged
them thus.
How wide can a smile be
when a mother holds the child that she has been separated
from for two years? How soft can a look of
be as Dorah's arms wrap around her mother's neck and hold
her tight?
Lumps in the throat cannot
convey the joy of seeing such an injustice righted at last.
Of seeing Margaret cover Dorah's neck and ears with little
kisses, cradling her, singing to her softly.
I cannot pretend Dorah
knew who her mother was. At the "handover" she clung to me
- she knows my voice, my hair, my perfume. But I had at last
used the words "your mother" when talking to her before the
meeting. She knew I was the mother of her playmate Tristan.
Now I told her that this was her mother. I believe that she
understands. This reunion is only the first milestone on a
long road for mother and child, but it is a remarkable one
in South Africa.
In addition to finding
the best medical solution for Dorah, the task is to find the
best and swiftest way to educate her mother to care for her.
So when people asked what they could do, I requested early-childhood
development videos, the easiest way to give information to
barely literate nursing assistants in institutions such as
the one in which Dorah lives.
Some people asked if children
could help. I suggested that they send toys specially tailored
to Dorah's needs. Until now, Dorah has spent most of her life
in a cot, and is far behind where she should be. But with
the many hours that my son Tristan, 7, his friend Thobeka,
also 7, and I have spent playing with Dorah, we have every
belief that she is an intelligent child with much potential.
One of the most exciting
responses has been from Passmores Secondary School, in Edmonton,
North London, where pupils are working on a frame from which
scented and textured objects will hang. This will allow Dorah
to smell a bag of herbs, or crackle a bag of .
They are also stitching
a Dorah-size play rug that combines interesting textures,
and are recording a story on tape that goes something like
this: "One day Dorah went for a walk. The gravel path was
rough on her feet" - they will glue gravel pieces on card
for Margaret to place beneath Dorah's feet. "She found a flower
in the garden. Its
were soft like " - there will be satin
ribbon for Dorah to feel.
But for now I have this
enormous feeling of hope for Dorah. I can only smile as I
see the soft curves of Margaret's profile and see Dorah's
dreams reflected there.
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