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                Three Months 
                  is a Long Time | 
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                  For freshmen, and especially for us, saying goodbye at the end 
                  of the first year can feel like saying goodbye forever.  
                   
                    Three months can seem like a long 
                  time when you are leaving friends and acquaintances 
                  whom you have only known for a year. Your freshman year moments 
                  are irreplaceable. 
                    
                   
                      
                  My advice to any freshmen reading this is to cherish those moments. 
                  You may grow completely apart from the people you spent your 
                  first year with, or you may find yourself fortunately comparing 
                  them to siblings 
                  at the end of your junior year as I did. 
                   
                    Even 
                  if you have almost forgotten your freshman year roommates 
                  two years later, and barely 
                   recognize 
                  them when you encounter 
                  them in front of the gymnasium, 
                  you can never replace 
                  that year and the brand-new feeling that your first year of 
                  college brings. 
                    
                   
                    
                       
                        Roommates 
                          and Majors in American Colleges 
                           
                          Freshman roommates are usually assigned  randomly, 
                          with no attention to their majors, and may have little 
                          in common with one another either academically or personally. 
                          They may take none of the same classes, and do not have 
                          to choose their majors the first year. In future years 
                          it's very easy to change roommates, and in the junior 
                          or senior year it's quite common for students to move 
                          to off-campus apartments. So there's much less likelihood 
                          that freshman roommates will become lifelong friends. 
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                  A lot will change after your freshman year. You will meet new 
                  people and do new things. You will do a lot more growing up. 
                   
                   
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                  the beginning of our senior year, Karen took her hometown boyfriend 
                  Kevin on a tour of campus and downtown. "That's where we 
                  grew up," she told him, motioning 
                  toward Atherton Hall, where the four of us spent our first two 
                  years at Penn State.   
                   
                      
                  We learned more outside the classroom than we learned inside 
                  it. That dorm is where we learned and discussed the lessons 
                  of our freshman and sophomore years. I think the principal 
                  lesson I learned was the definition 
                  of true friendship. 
                  And I have never had nor will ever have better teachers than 
                  Alisa, Karen and Gabrielle. 
                   
                    
                       
                        	
                          American and Chinese Friendships 
                           
                          Americans are very adapt at making new friends, while 
                          Chinese people are  
                          very skillful at keeping their old friends. The main 
                          reason for this is that Americans experience more changes 
                          in their personal circumstances, such as changing jobs, 
                          moving to another town, or getting divorced. At any 
                          given time an American may have only a few close friends 
                          but many casual acquaintances. Over the course of a 
                          lifetime an American will probably have more friends 
                          than a Chinese person has but a Chinese person may have 
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                    That lesson can best be summarized 
                  by something Alisa and Karen told me when I was upset 
                  at the end of last semester and needed a shoulder to cry on. 
                  They said no matter how far we drift apart or who else we become 
                  friends with after college, we will always incline 
                  to recall 
                  each other first whenever we think of college.  
                   
                    I couldn’t agree more. 
                    
                   
                      
                  The story Alisa told on that balcony is far from over. I sometimes 
                  wonder if the following is how it will end:  
                   
                    “…and those four little girls grew up and realized their dreams. 
                  They found themselves all over the country, from farms, to cities, 
                  to the suburbs, doing everything they wanted to do – a computer 
                  technician, 
                  a physician, 
                  an attorney, 
                  and an architect 
                  ---with the companions they wanted in husbands, children and 
                  pets.  
                   
                    And occasionally 
                  they would make it back to reunions 
                  at that mythical valley and see their old friends, laughing 
                  about the good times. They had succeeded in forgetting any of 
                  the bad times.  
                   
                    And they lived happily ever after.” 
                    
                   
                    
                       
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                          Class Reunions
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                            many Western countries it is customary for the people 
                            who graduated from a college or school in the same 
                            year to gather periodically at the campus or in their 
                            hometown for a class reunion. It often includes parties, 
                            dinners, dancing, golfing, bowling, and other special 
                            events such as visits with former teachers. Reunions 
                            usually occur every five years, beginning five years 
                            after graduation. Certain reunions such as the 10th, 
                            25th, and 50th are often considered special, and are 
                            more elaborate than the others.  
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